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Running late on this again.. just not used to daily blogging anymore.

So what am I afraid of? So many things.
I'm afraid of my present job becoming so unrecognizable that I won't know what to do with myself.
I'm afraid of losing my job and not being able to pay my mortgage.
I'm afraid of losing my friends.
I'm afraid of the frightening things that are changing the world and I worry for what my niece and nephew have in their future.

Wow, what a disheartening subject! I hope Blog Challenge #5 is nicer.

Date: 2013-12-22 02:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] der-wolfing.livejournal.com
Fear comes from projecting scenarios of a future that in reality does not exist. The other side of this is regret which is projecting scenarios in the past. Both have one thing in common: clinging or attachment. The problem with clinging is that it makes your mind think that those scenarios are going to be true. In reality you just don't know. This is what the mind does when it does not know - it tries to fill in the blanks with anything. Mostly those scenarios are the product of ingrained experience - either from similar instances, stories, or observations from the past. We assume that things always happen in the same way...but upon contemplation although some of it may be the same, a majority of it is very different.

Look at these in this way:

1. Present job becoming so unrecognizable = all things change without exception. So if it becomes unrecognizable, this is a sign of that change.

2. I'm afraid of losing my job and not being able to pay my mortgage. = If you lose your job, you can find another one. The mortgage? Worry about that when you lose your job (which at the moment you have not lost, so don't worry).

3. I'm afraid of losing my friends. = if your current friends leave you for whatever reason, then they were not really your friends. There will be others, and they will be better friends.

4. I'm afraid of the frightening things that are changing the world and I worry for what my niece and nephew have in their future. = You cannot change the world. You can only change your perception of the world and one person at a time. The future for the next generation will be different. As their aunt, you can make them aware of this and this will help their mindfulness about living in the future.

Remember, you cannot predict the future. No one can. All you have control over is what you do now, in the present. Past and future don't exist.

Feel better, Nancy.

PS: I saw you standing at Eglinton station a week or so ago. You were deep in thought. I did not want to disturb you.
PPS: How is your brother in law, Andre?

Take care!
Louie

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